For Marin parents

The Party Guide

Hosting a party should be fun, but safety is key. Allowing underage drinking or substance use can lead to fines, lawsuits, and criminal charges under Social Host Ordinances.

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How to Host a Party

Whether it's at your home or a rented venue, setting clear boundaries and keeping things substance-free makes for a safe and enjoyable event for everyone. The best advice for hosting is to plan ahead.

Plan it together. Planning a party with your child opens the door to an honest, healthy conversation about your rules, values and expectations, along with the responsibilities and liabilities that come with hosting.

Set Ground Rules

Talk through the ground rules that need to be followed for the party to happen, and make sure your child understands the legal consequences you face as the adult and host.

  • No alcohol, marijuana, smoking, vaping or other drugs
  • A definite start and end time
  • Which areas of the home are open and which are off limits
  • How many guests are invited
  • An email to other parents sharing your ground rules and contact info

Be Visible

Check in throughout the party and stay aware of what's going on. Being around (and being seen) is one of the simplest ways to keep things safe and fun.

And of course, never let anyone under the influence drive.
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How to Invite Guests to an Alcohol-Free Party

Not sure how to say it? Here are some approachable, considerate ways to word your invitations so you can share your intentions clearly while keeping the tone warm and welcoming. Pick the one that fits, copy it, and make it your own.

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When Your Kid Is the Guest

So your kid wants to go to a party at a friend's house, and you're not quite sure how to approach it. A good starting point is checking in on the details, like where the party is and who's hosting. Asking these questions keeps you connected and helps keep your child safe.

Check In With the Host Parent

Reaching out to the parents hosting might feel a little awkward, but it's an easy way to get everyone on the same page (and give yourself some peace of mind). A few questions to consider:

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Will you be at the party and actively supervising?

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What time does the party start and end?

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Who will be helping with supervision?

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Is it okay if I share my phone number in case you need to reach me?

Having this conversation builds a sense of teamwork and makes sure everyone is working together to keep things safe and fun for all the kids.

Not sure how to start? Our conversation scripts can help you prep for talks with other parents.

See Our Scripts